Forced to Be Family
A Guide for Living With Sinister Sisters, Drama Mamas, and Infuriating In-lawsBook - 2007
You can survive the "kitchen wars"--and live in peace withyour family
"My sisters-in-law couldn't stand me. I was really hurt when mykids weren't mentioned in their grandmother's obituary because theyweren't 'full-blooded' family."
"My mom is always giving advice, always telling me to do suchand such when she doesn't do it herself. If my husband and I have afight, she takes his side!"
"My sister did call me a week later to apologize but proceededto tell me everything that was wrong with me, my husband, and mychildren."
Sound familiar? There's nothing new or unusual about conflictbetween mothers, sisters, and other female family members--butthat doesn't make it any less painful or destructive. Adding to thehurt of relational abuse within the family is the permanent natureof the relationship: you can sever relations with an abusivefriend, but you can't stop being the sister/daughter/niece of anabusive relative. Does that mean that there's no way out?
In Forced to Be Family, you'll discover how to determine whethera female family member is being abusive, recognize the sources ofthat abuse, and break the vicious cycle that keeps the abuse alive.You don't have to choose between accepting abuse and "making ascene." This insightful, reassuring guide gives you the strategiesand understanding you need to reestablish warm and lovingrelationships with the women who will always be closest to you.